A Love Tirade on the Word Cunt

Did you know that I think your awesome, amazing even? Your revolutionaries, lovers, movers and shakers.

So lets talk Cunt.
For some reason out of the blue the word has come up a billion times this week, so I felt moved to go on a love tirade.

Cunt can be a powerful word. But why?
Can you think of a worse word in the English language? One that conveys more hate, more disgust, or contempt? Urban dictionary can't, and if they can't I don't know its possible.

But, before you jump to use the word to convey your complete, justifiable anger and contempt of the person that screwed you out of money or a job take a moment:
What word do you think is used the most to refer to rape victims by their assailants?
What about women abused by their male partners?
Even more specifically, what about women emotionally abused by their partners?
What about prostitutes? What about child prostitutes?

Bitch is pretty high up there but one word reigns supreme: Cunt.
Why?
Because nothing quite gets that contempt across the way Cunt does.

Cunt has another component that makes it of particular interest to us:
It refers to women. When used on men it is to relate them to women. A Cunt is a Vagina is a Woman. There is no soley male word with the same intense meaning as Cunt. The only thing that comes close is dick. But dick can be bad (you're a total dick) or good, (he has a huge dick). Now, replace dick with Cunt. You're a total Cunt. A bit heavier, no?
What about: she has a huge Cunt. If said this would probably be meant to be insanely offensive.

Cunt takes all of the negative stereotypes about women and rolls them all into one word. When dissected you think things like: whore, bitch... again, all female.

Instead of propagating its use and the ideas behind it by using it to insult eachother and others let's own it. Let's use it to uplift eachother and ourselves. Let's kill the harsh bitterness attached to it.

As a woman who has heard this word in some of the worst of times I would like to ask you, humbly, with so much love, please don't use this word to attack. We are all so much better than what that word labels us as. We are awesome, amazing, revolutionaries, mothers, sisters and lovers.

Cunt VS Vagina

So many times when I use the C word (Cunt!) women go into a rage, understandably.
But let me explain why by looking at the origins of Cunt and Vagina:

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ORIGINS OF THE WORD CUNT

by Gloria Bertonis, M.Ed. from the book Stone Age Divas

"Cuneiform", the most ancient form of writing, derives from "kunta" meaning "female genitalia" in Sumerian of ancient Iraq. "Kunta" is "woman" in several Near Eastern and African languages and a Mother Tongue that is being compiled by linguists today. It was also spelled "quna," which is the root of "queen." Since priestesses were known to be accountants/administrators of Temple of Inanna in Sumeria c.3100 B.C. when Cuneiform was first used, it is highly likely that cuneiform was "the sign of the kunta" who kept the books (clay tablets) for the temple economy/redistribution of wealth that evolved from communal economics of ancient mother-cultures.

So when an abuser calls a woman a "cunt" he is actually calling her a "queen who invented writing and numerals."

ORIGINS OF THE WORD VAGINA

From the Doctors at MedicineNet.com

"The word "vagina" is a Latin word meaning "a sheath or scabbard", a scabbard into which one might slide and sheath a sword. The "sword" in the case of the anatomic vagina was the penis."

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Taking that into account I choose between a queen who invented writing and numerals and a holding place for a penis. I chose Cunt. I sing Cunt. I love Cunt.

Freaking Awesome? I think its safe to say they are.

So who are my Lady Lovin' heros? Cat and Natalie, of course.

But why?

Because they rocked the Vag in their senior pictures.

How they got past mothers, then faculty, then yearbook editors I dont know. Natalie has her waysss :]

Want to see the pictures?
Of course you do!
Make note of the pink dangling from their necks.

;)

My Vagina is a Vagina!

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I just want to clarify.
My Vagina is a Vagina.
She's not a Squishy, Coochie, Cooter, Pussy, Honey Pot, Pink, Coochie Snorcher, Vay Jay Jay, Snatch, Kitty Cat, and she's certainly not a beaver. Only on special occasion is she a Cunt.

She doesn't mind if your Vagina is a WhooWhoo, she can respect that. She will refer to your Vagina as a WhooWhoo if you like. But she, she is a Vagina.
She doesn't want to be cleaned up and made socially acceptable. She wants to smell like Vagina and look like Vagina, sometimes she wants to be wet, and in the end she never wants to be a beaver.

So, once again, my Vagina is exactly that. A Vagina.
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I lost my copy of the Vagina Monologues to Vaginal Self Hatred- and it feels soooo good.

I list a healing uterus plush and almost instantly I see a convo pop up. I assume that it is some disgruntled mother that followed the cute plush to a Vagina emporium and was deeply offended. I open the convo only to find this little note:

"I just wanted to say thank you xxAs fate has it, your cute uterus plush caught my eye on the 'recently added'listing, and I couldn't make sense of its shape so I had to investigate further. As I went to your shop and saw all your other items I was smiling but also cringing. Smiling at the warmth and love thats showed in each piece. Cringing because I've never liked my vagina, and have even considered surgery. I won't give you my life story, but your profile blurb bought tears to my eyes. Its a lonely and difficult relationship with your own vagina/sexuality and can only hope one day I will embrace, own and celebrate my little (big) lips like you have. "

Of course I respond, in short I let her know she does not have to go it alone and she certainly is not alone. I then offer to send her my first and only copy of the Vagina Monologues.

Another note:

"Thank you so much. You are right - its reassuring just knowing someone else feels / has felt that same self-hatred. I am so touched by your offer xx Thank you. Its not in my nature to accept things easily but I guess the healing only can start when I finally accept help. So my sincerest thank you, I would so appreciate a copy of that book. Please be sure to include your return address so I can send you a gift of thanks.Wow - JJs unite =) And would you believe I have a Diploma in Holistic Counselling? 'Holistic' in the sense that we study counselling alongside natural therapies to treat the physical, enviromental and emotions factors that contribute to our psychological and overall wellbeing. I am not practising at the moment, but the course itself has healed some deep wounds in my life and equipped me with invaluable interpersonal skills. Your compassion and vision is a gift to women. In one day you've done so much for me xx Bless your heart. I'm so glad I followed that little uterus plush to find you"

Now, my tattered copy is all wrapped up and on its way to Australia and instead of feeling sad or proud, I feel a little better.